Merlin The Cat: Life After Death

Merlin The Cat; Life After Death by his cat mom, Layla.

We’re about to reach our sixth year of blogging at Cat Wisdom 101 with over 2000 posts. A popular category from the start has been Mondays With Merlin. Merlin died last May but being a larger than life character, he continued to blog from the great beyond. He handed over the reins to Clyde in early 2017 but still makes his presence felt with guest appearances.

For the longest time, I debated sharing the very last photo taken in the garden a couple days before he died. The purple phlox were in bloom as they are today and Merlin wanted to lie on the sun warmed driveway. He was so bony at that point, I placed a folded blanket with support for his head. It’s not a particularly good photo but it’s the final photo outdoors. He loved and lived for the garden, a place of security for 15 years after six tumultuous years of multiple moves and change. We all take photos of our cats, some every day but we never know which shot will be “it”. The last shot alive.

As the anniversary of his death approached, I wanted to put together a tribute but nothing felt right. How do you condense hundreds of posts, thousands of photos, 21 years and millions of memories? What do you share with the world or keep tucked safely in the privacy of your soul? I don’t know.

I do know that when he died on May 11, 2016 at about 10:30 in the morning, it was a gorgeous spring day. Sunny and warm with a burst of green blooming overnight. Merlin, ever a sun worshipper was sunbathing on his favorite pillow, purchased when he was kitten. He was never one for cat beds since he slept under the covers with me but did enjoy a soft pillow. He also loved lounging on the hammock or blankies with me in the garden in his later years. I didn’t see him die but my husband did. They always spent the mornings together. Merlin napping or watching Joe read the paper, have coffee and dig into email. I would be sleeping, being an night owl and would get up sometime before noon. Little did I know that Merlin’s death would flip my inner clock and plunge me into a mysterious illness nearly killing me. I’m still doing daily battle but feel hopeful about the future.

I didn’t see Merlin die but knew his time was up and did a gentle farewell photo shoot the day before. I couldn’t write about his death until a month later and even then, the post left out more than it revealed. Merlin died as easily and magically as he’d lived.  We should all be so lucky but nothing can prepare you for death.  Being old and ill with chronic kidney disease meant death whispered daily. Close calls, emergency vet visits, incremental decline while monitoring his quality of life. When Joe brought a lifeless fur baby into bed, life as I knew it was over. And yet I was about to embark on a big project, do two fundraising campaigns on Kickstarter for the Black Cats Tell All book, prepare a huge blogoversary giveaway and curate a mountain of book submissions. Oh, and find time to grieve. Bless Merlin for making it easy or easier.  It allowed me to plow forward making short order of work but ignoring the growing physical symptoms. It’s taken a year and several false starts to begin healing and grieving is  a part of it.

Joe wanted to bury Merlin in the garden which is our preference.  Merlin’s sister Coco, Gris Gris and Radish would be waiting. I’d selected a beautiful spot near Angel Gris Gris but I couldn’t bear the thought of letting him go, so I didn’t. I’ve made many poor decisions in my life but while unorthodox, my decision to live with a dead animal for days, was one of my wisest.

Merlin cat burial plot garden- circle quote
Merlin selects his future resting place.

I made a lovely and meaningful altar where he laid wrapped in a blanket not nine feet from where I slept. The room flickered with candles. Incense wafted, the music of Buddhist prayers chanted, freshly picked lily of the valley filled the air with sweet smells. It was oddly comforting sleeping with him in the same room.


He was like a king lying in state and time stood still. A day passed and then another. Joe was getting antsy about the burial but it wasn’t time.  Frankly, he thought I was crazy. I searched Chinese tong shu almanacs for auspicious burial days. Merlin became to smell on the third day but the best burial date wasn’t until the 15th, four days after his death.  It was the perfect day and time. The gloomy day brightened after the grave was done and during the funeral, the sky suddenly sparkled with sunshine as Merlin was laid to rest. No regrets. No guilt but no deep grieving as I’d expected. Instead, I internalized the loss, kept working at breakneck speed until something broke. That’s another story and another book.


In hunting down photos to share I had to dig through thousands of images of all sorts just from the past two years.  Many unbearably painful to look at. Some I could see with fresh eyes. It took all night. I found an old video from 2013 which I don’t think anyone has seen and a  bizarre accidental 1 second video from 2015. There was no sound or talking but I could swear I can hear “Merlin”. I’ve learned in the past year to expect the unexpected and make peace with it. This remembrance is not at all what I’d planned but there you go. Merlin lives on and so do I. Thank you for being a part of the journey.

Instead of clogging this space with photos I made an album FOREVER MERLIN: TIMELESS WISDOM of a few highlights of Merlin’s work and life over the past couple years, his final days and funeral. It’s big and yet only a tiny drop of his life. He savored every moment and every drop.


From Woodstock, a snippet of the lyics. They sum up Merlin’s philosophy and mine, more than ever.

We are stardust
We are golden
And we’ve got to get ourselves
Back to the garden

Then can I walk beside you
I have come here to lose the smog
And I feel to be a cog in something turning
Well maybe it is just the time of year
Or maybe it’s the time of man
I don’t know who I am
But you know life is for learning

Death of a Cat Muse & Meet #AdorableAdoptables Gilbert

We all know how important it is to spay/neuter our cats. Neutered males are less prone to spraying, roaming, being aggressive and of course eliminating unwanted pregnancies and their strong,smelly urine. The personality changes occur almost overnight like what happened to Gilbert, a new arrival at the shelter I volunteer at.

Gilbert, an unneutered surrender, and stunning young tabby with energy to spare was desperate to be let out. I opened the cage door and he quickly jumped to freedom but not before interacting with his neighbors. Ginger Boy AKA Joe of the Hardy Boys in the cage below reached out and they seem to like each other. My favorite Gray Boy AKA Frank of the Hardy Boys expressed curiosity but not the genuine fascination as Ginger Boy.

Whether with cats or humans, it remains a mystery who is attracted to who as friends or soul mates. Sometimes the bond or connection is instantaneous and sometimes it takes time. Gilbert explored the small room with confidence and expressed more interest in exploring than playing. His eyes implored, Lady, where is the exit? I want out of here.

When I placed him back in the cage, he went ballistic, banging up against the bars and meowing, let me out, let me out let meow out! It was Friday, surgeries are on Tuesdays and I hoped he wouldn’t injure himself before getting neutered.

The following Wednesday, I didn’t need to check his cage card to know he’d been neutered. He looked more sedate but his bloodied nose spoke of his last testosterone fueled attack against the cage bars. I opened the cage door and he jumped out but with less swagger and pent up energy. He prowled about, brushed up against for a petting and I marveled at his dramatic personality change. His Ginger Boy pal remained as interested as ever in this very handsome and adoptable cat. I think they might make a well matched pair for adoption.

cat adoption Collage

#AdorableAdoptable Gilbert

UPDATE: Shelter life can change in a heartbeat.

Gray boy-NRHS

My plan was to foster the Hardy Boys and then the unthinkable happened. My favorite Gray Boy and shelter muse died. He was taken to the vet on Saturday. They thought it was cancer and nothing could be done. His cage mate, the Ginger Boy is in a foster home and up for adoption.Sudden deaths never make sense and this one floored me. I’ve cried every day since. Gray Boy was so happy to see me last Wednesday, headbutting with extra vigor and he finally settled down enough to sit on my lap. He played with good energy and his distended abdomen of two weeks ago appeared better. He was on meds for anemia and I would have never suspected cancer.

When it was time for him to return to his cage he played games and wouldn’t go inside by himself as he usually did. I lifted him inside and said, “I’ll see you soon and you can communicate with me anytime.” Meaning telepathically. I tuned into him daily and worried about the noise of fireworks on the 4th but I picked up no distress or signal except he wanted to be with me. And now he’s gone.

Perhaps his destiny or karma was to get me to volunteer at the shelter and not be my house cat. If so, he succeeded and my work must continue, which I’ll do with love, in his memory. After being rescued from unspeakable horrors at the hoarder’s, he lived six, short weeks at the shelter. While not a home, he received much love and all the staff thought he was special. Dear Gray Boy and Angel Muse, fly free and know that many cats will be helped in your memory.

Gray Boy RIP


There are many, healthy cats ready, willing and able to be adopted like Gilbert. Please Pin and share his adoption graphic. To find out more of the deserving cat in need of homes in the NYC area, please visit New Rochelle Humane Society If you missed seeing highly adorable and adoptable Peanut our model for this month’s cat astrology 

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